Week In Review ~ November 26
Well, this has been an eventful week. Let's start with last Saturday. My teen asked to go out to a show which ends typically around 2am and I occasionally let her because it's something special. So this time her friend was staying with us and I spoke to her mother assuring her that I knew the adult they were going to be with and I have let my daughter go before. Mistake #1 on my part. The show was cancelled and instead of the girls calling me and letting me know this, they decided to go to a friends house and party. My daughter, her friend and another girl came home at 3 am drunk and puking all over my house. I was very angry and grounded my daughter promptly. This coming on the heels of my daughter not being in school for over two months. First she was withdrawn due to medical reasons, and then when I tried to re enroll her they told me that she had missed too much of that block to pass and couldn't return until Jan 8. Throughout this time she had her attitude in full force along with the laziness of laying on the couch doing nothing. I had just about had my fill.
Monday night, another day of her doing nothing, which my husband had enough of as well. He went to open her door to see if her room was clean (she said it was) and she ran behind him pushing him into the door frame. He cuffed her upside the back of the head. This started a physical altercation in which my husband took a good number of punches from my 15 yr old daughter. To defend himself, he had cuffed her upside the head again. I was in shock at this point and all I could think to do was call the police. Once they arrived, they interviewed all of us. They determined that my daughter was the cause of the situation and did more of the assaulting than my husband did. But they did say if they had to come back, they were going to arrest him.
I don't know how my family has become so chaotic. I try to do the best for everyone, but little by little I am losing ground and getting lost in the process. As of Wednesday, still no clean room along with a number of other chores left undone I let loose. I was calm in my reasoning with her, but she still flew off the handle and began yelling and cussing at me. This day was hard for me anyway as I found out I had pneumonia and had a second biopsy for cervical cancer. I let her know that if she did not get her crap together it was very possible she could be removed from our household because she was violent to all of us including my 4 yr old daughter and this environment is just not healthy for the two younger children. After thinking about this in her room for a few minutes, she informed me she was leaving. She packed her duffel bag and walked out of the house.
Now yes, I did call the police. They came 6 hours later to take the run away report. They told me that all they could do is bring her home. That is the last thing I want at this point. She is staying at a friends house right now and is supposed to go visit her dad 2,000 miles away on Dec 19.
There is so much going through my head at the moment. My house has been so peaceful since she left. I can see a huge difference in the way my younger two children are behaving. The tension in the house is gone. No one is walking on eggshells wondering when the crap is going to hit the fan. I feel I have done all I can to help my daughter through her behavior issues. I can no longer control her. I don't want to give up, I swore I never would, but where do you go when there is no rope left? At this point I feel as if I am sacrificing the one for the greater good.
Let's see what next week brings....
Monday night, another day of her doing nothing, which my husband had enough of as well. He went to open her door to see if her room was clean (she said it was) and she ran behind him pushing him into the door frame. He cuffed her upside the back of the head. This started a physical altercation in which my husband took a good number of punches from my 15 yr old daughter. To defend himself, he had cuffed her upside the head again. I was in shock at this point and all I could think to do was call the police. Once they arrived, they interviewed all of us. They determined that my daughter was the cause of the situation and did more of the assaulting than my husband did. But they did say if they had to come back, they were going to arrest him.
I don't know how my family has become so chaotic. I try to do the best for everyone, but little by little I am losing ground and getting lost in the process. As of Wednesday, still no clean room along with a number of other chores left undone I let loose. I was calm in my reasoning with her, but she still flew off the handle and began yelling and cussing at me. This day was hard for me anyway as I found out I had pneumonia and had a second biopsy for cervical cancer. I let her know that if she did not get her crap together it was very possible she could be removed from our household because she was violent to all of us including my 4 yr old daughter and this environment is just not healthy for the two younger children. After thinking about this in her room for a few minutes, she informed me she was leaving. She packed her duffel bag and walked out of the house.
Now yes, I did call the police. They came 6 hours later to take the run away report. They told me that all they could do is bring her home. That is the last thing I want at this point. She is staying at a friends house right now and is supposed to go visit her dad 2,000 miles away on Dec 19.
There is so much going through my head at the moment. My house has been so peaceful since she left. I can see a huge difference in the way my younger two children are behaving. The tension in the house is gone. No one is walking on eggshells wondering when the crap is going to hit the fan. I feel I have done all I can to help my daughter through her behavior issues. I can no longer control her. I don't want to give up, I swore I never would, but where do you go when there is no rope left? At this point I feel as if I am sacrificing the one for the greater good.
Let's see what next week brings....
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